Woman have been fighting for their "rights" since the beginning of time. Ever since the first female neanderthal was ordered to roast the wild boar for supper, woman have been fighting for equality. Honestly, "equality" is what everyone is fighting for, but I would rather fight for happiness.
Since the 70's, when the feminist movement really took off, stay-at-home mothers have been viewed completely differently. No longer was it the typical, accepted, view of the female role. It now was a woman giving up her life for a man. Surrendering her own self for others. Blah Blah Blah. And many people stopped accepting a "house-wife" as an acceptable job.
If a 17 year girl went to the career counselor and told him/her that all they wanted to be was a housewife, what would the career counselor say?
If I said that all I really wanted to do was be a wife and a mother, what would you say? If I said that all I want is to have dinner ready on the table when my husband gets home, what would you say? If I said that all I really want to do is stay at home and raise the children, clean the house, and cook the food, what would you say?
Am I giving up, or selling my self short, or what?
Honestly, this is ALL I know I want to do. This is it. I want to be a good wife, and an excellent mother. That's absolutely it. That is all I want to do. And with our current "feminist movement", it has been so hard to accept it.
I keep thinking I have to go to school, get a degree and become something. But, I know that no matter what I get a degree in and how happy I am with my job, I will give it up as soon as I have kids. And it's not that I would "give it up", it's that I would want too! I wouldn't view it as "giving it up" I would view it as doing something different. Doing something that I have to do, and want to do.
And I am not saying that, that is what I want to do NOW. I'm not saying that I want to grow up RIGHT NOW, get married and have kids. Because that is silly. I'm still a kid myself. I'm just saying that, that is all I want to do someday.
And, I don't view it as giving up. And, I don't view it as selling myself short. I just know that is who I am, and all that I want. I just don't know what I want to do until then.
The most important thing to me has always been my family, and I have always been great at taking care of them. That is all I want to do.
I'm not fighting for equality exactly, I'm just fighting for the right to do what I want to do without discrimination. I'm looking for people to accept the fact that I want to be a housewife, and not look down on it. Not think that I am selling myself short. I'm not looking for feminist equality, I'm looking for you to accept my happiness.
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